How do I request a visual signal?

Use the form linked below to make a request. I will follow up with next steps and we'll work together to best represent the visual signal that you'd like for remembrance.

CONNECTION, REMEMBRANCE, AND BEING SEEN

Your Calm Heart

This page is the part of the Calm-hearted platform to visit when you feel ready for something beyond the immediate shock of your loss.

Here, you will find ways to remember your baby, connect through shared experiences, receive support, and make remembrance more visible.

Reach out to me Choose what feels right

A NOTE FROM NATHAN'S MOM

Where my heart meets yours

I am so deeply sorry for the loss that brought you to this space. I began using the word calm-hearted to describe my better days, when the pain of my son's death was still present but not as heart-rending. It gave me language for the moments when I could hold both the heartbreak of losing him and the love I continue to carry for him. Calm-hearted grew from that experience and from my need for a personal, gentle place that honours the reality of grief.

I am here as you begin to understand what your own calm heart might feel like. This page offers different ways to receive support, find connection, and remember your baby. You can tell me about them, read stories that feel familiar, share your own experience, strengthen the support around you, or create a visual signal of remembrance.

Please know that I am reaching you with condolences, compassion, and care. I can smile on lighter days, but it does not mean that grief is behind me. Love, remembrance, and moments of calm still belong in my story. I am living this grief too, and you do not need to explain it perfectly or know exactly what you need before reaching out.

If the words calm-hearted or calm-hearted parent feel right to you, they are yours to use. They are not a stage to reach or a label you have to claim, but an invitation to find moments of steadiness, connection, and love alongside your grief.

— Jessica Gutierrez Schwartz, Nathan's Mom and Founder of Calm-hearted

A few things you may be wondering

Feeling calm-hearted does not mean that your grief is over, your heart is fixed, or you have reached a particular stage in navigating your loss. I used this language in my own experience, calling myself a "calm-hearted mom" alongside my acceptance of being a bereaved mom. Using this word, calm-hearted, can describe moments when the pain feels a little less heart-rending and there is more room for steadiness, connection, remembrance, and love.If calling yourself calm-hearted feels meaningful to you, you are welcome to use it. It is not a new label you need to claim; it's an offer to anyone who finds comfort or recognition in it as a way to describe how grief and love may begin to live alongside one another.

A Calm-hearted visual signal is a small, personalized mark that honours your baby and quietly communicates that pregnancy or infant loss is part of your story. For me, making my experience as a bereaved mom visible is one way to honour my son’s life and the impact he continues to have. You can use your visual signal online, in an email signature, on a remembrance piece, or anywhere else it feels meaningful to you.

You do not have to make your loss or grief public. Some bereaved parents want a way to acknowledge that pregnancy or infant loss is part of their story. Calm-hearted offers gentle options for doing that, including creating a visual signal or sharing a story. Either can be kept private, shared only with people you choose, or made more visible. If you use a Calm-hearted visual signal in a professional space, such as LinkedIn or an email signature, it can link to a page that explains what the visual represents. This gives others context without requiring you to re-tell your story each time. If you request a visual signal, we will talk through how and where you would like to use it so that the final choice feels comfortable and fully yours.

A few things you may be wondering

Feeling calm-hearted does not mean that your grief is over, your heart is fixed, or you have reached a particular stage in navigating your loss. I used this language in my own experience, calling myself a "calm-hearted mom" alongside my acceptance of being a bereaved mom. Using this word, calm-hearted, can describe moments when the pain feels a little less heart-rending and there is more room for steadiness, connection, remembrance, and love.If calling yourself calm-hearted feels meaningful to you, you are welcome to use it. It is not a new label you need to claim; it's an offer to anyone who finds comfort or recognition in it as a way to describe how grief and love may begin to live alongside one another.

A Calm-hearted visual signal is a small, personalized mark that honours your baby and quietly communicates that pregnancy or infant loss is part of your story. For me, making my experience as a bereaved mom visible is one way to honour my son’s life and the impact he continues to have. You can use your visual signal online, in an email signature, on a remembrance piece, or anywhere else it feels meaningful to you.

You do not have to make your loss or grief public. Some bereaved parents want a way to acknowledge that pregnancy or infant loss is part of their story. Calm-hearted offers gentle options for doing that, including creating a visual signal or sharing a story. Either can be kept private, shared only with people you choose, or made more visible. If you use a Calm-hearted visual signal in a professional space, such as LinkedIn or an email signature, it can link to a page that explains what the visual represents. This gives others context without requiring you to re-tell your story each time. If you request a visual signal, we will talk through how and where you would like to use it so that the final choice feels comfortable and fully yours.

Choose what feels right

You do not have to carry all the reaching, explaining, or teaching yourself. These options offer different ways to find connection, honour your baby, and help the people around you show up with greater understanding and support.

1

Connect with me

You know my story and it will be an honour for my to hear yours. Tell me about your baby, ask a question, or connect with me as I live through this too.

2

Relate and share

Read experiences from my writing that feel familiar. Or, contact me so that we can publish your own story so someone else may feel recognized in your words.

3

Strengthen your support

Invite loved ones to explore guidance for showing up with care and connect your workplace with Calm-hearted for consultation, training, or liaison support.

4

Use a visual signal

Get in touch and use the Calm-hearted visual signal or request a personalized version that holds your own meaning and points back to this safe space.

AN OFFER FOR YOUR CONSIDERATION

A visual for remembrance

The Calm-hearted visual can be used as it is or personalized to hold details that are meaningful to you and your baby. Each version is created as a quiet acknowledgement of their life, your love, and the place they continue to hold in your story.

These examples show how a visual might appear in professional, social, or private spaces. You may choose to use it in a LinkedIn banner, an email signature, a remembrance image, or somewhere only you and the people closest to you will see.

Request or learn more about the Calm-hearted visual. Whether you use the existing visual or a personalized version, we'll work together to link to a page that explains its meaning and help people understand what it means to be calm-hearted.

Optional

Personal

Simple

LinkedIn

A subtle banner for professional spaces.

Email signature image

A low-profile image that can sit below your name in email.

Instagram or TikTok

A tile for sharing more personally.

Only if you'd like

A Calm-hearted visual signal is not something you have to wear, share, or explain. You can use it publicly, keep it private, or decide it is not for you. It's an offer; one optional way to honour your baby, make their life visible, and carry their memory with you.

LinkedIn banner

Instagram square

Private remembrance

Email signature

A POINT OF CONNECTION

Here for you.

You do not need to know exactly what you need before reaching out. Reach out and tell me about your baby, ask a question, write a story, request a Calm-hearted visual signal, or just connect. Choose whatever feels right, even if you're not sure yet.

READ AND CONTRIBUTE

Stories that feel familiar

Read personal stories from lived experience with pregnancy and infant loss. You are also welcome to share your own so someone else may recognize part of their experience in your words.

Explore Stories

FIND MORE SUPPORT

Resources gathered with care

Check out organizations, books, podcasts, and other resources with context and content warnings. Each is shared with descriptions to help you decide what may feel supportive for you at this time.

Explore Resources

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Your Calm Heart

Where my heart meets yours

A few things you may be wondering

What does it mean to feel calm-hearted?

What is a Calm-hearted visual signal?

How do I request a visual signal?

Why might I choose to make my loss visible?

A few things you may be wondering

What does it mean to feel calm-hearted?

What is a Calm-hearted visual signal?

How do I request a visual signal?

Why might I choose to make my loss visible?

Choose what feels right

Connect with me

Relate and share

Strengthen your support

Use a visual signal

A visual for remembrance

LinkedIn

Email signature image

Instagram or TikTok

Only if you'd like

Here for you.

Stories that feel familiar

Resources gathered with care

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KEEP IN TOUCH