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REMEMBERING FORWARD
Resources without the internet spiral
While grieving, it can be easy to get lost in open tabs, informal threads, and organization after organization without finding what feels right. At other times, even beginning a search that you know you need can feel like too much.
This page brings together resources that may feel useful now, with brief notes and content warnings to help you choose what to explore. Take what supports you and leave the rest.
Content warning
These resources lead to external websites where the language, images, choices, and approach to grief may differ from what you find on Calm-hearted. Some may feel supportive, while others may feel unexpectedly difficult, intense, or just not right for you, so please open them with care.
A NOTE FROM NATHAN'S MOM
Each resource includes a short note explaining the extent of my familiarity with it or any connection I have to the source. Including a resource below does not mean that I have personally used, fully reviewed, or endorse it. These listings are not paid partnerships, and Calm-hearted does not receive compensation if you visit an external site, use a service, participate in a program, or make a purchase. Please use your own judgment when deciding whether a resource is right for you.
Organizations
UK
Antenatal Results and Choices (ARC)
Impartial, non-directive information and support after an unexpected prenatal screening result or diagnosis. ARC supports parents considering their options, continuing a pregnancy, or grieving after TFMR.
This resource has not been personally used or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
BC + Virtual + Paid service
Baby Bean Consulting
Private nursing support for miscarriage, pregnancy after loss, birth trauma, and postpartum transitions. Registered nurses provide physical and emotional support, health-care navigation, and help preparing for appointments.
Calm-hearted has been in direct contact with this organization regarding its work, although I have not used its services or programs.
BC
Butterfly Support Network
Support programs for people in British Columbia navigating infertility, pregnancy loss, or infant loss. Services include counsellor-led groups, peer support, community events, and up to five counselling sessions per family at no or low cost.
Calm-hearted has been in direct contact with this organization and I'm in discussions regarding opportunities to partner and contribute my professional learning & development experience to their work.
BC and Yukon + Eligibility Applies
Canuck Place Children’s Hospice
Bereavement care for anyone in British Columbia or the Yukon grieving the death of a child under 19. Support includes counselling, parent and caregiver groups, sibling and family programs, and help understanding and integrating grief.
My husband and I are currently receiving free couples grief counselling through this organization, which has been meaningful and helpful for us. I have also been in touch with their Bereavement and Family Engagement teams to share feedback to help improve some processes for bereaved parents.
Empty Cradle Vancouver
A peer-led group for parents after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss. Regular meetings offer a local place to share stories, remember babies, and connect with other bereaved parents.
This widely known local resource is included for completeness, although I have not personally used it and cannot speak to the quality of individual experiences and services.
UK
Miscarriage UK
Free support and information for people affected by miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, or molar pregnancy. Services include a support line, online information, peer groups, counselling resources, and workplace guidance.
This resource has not been personally used or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Virtual
Pregnancy After Loss Support
Online peer groups, articles, and meet-ups for people trying to conceive, pregnant, or parenting after loss. Support includes groups for different stages and experiences, including pregnancy after TFMR.
This resource has not been personally used or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Ontario
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Network (PAIL Network)
Peer-led groups, one-to-one support, and written resources for Ontario families after pregnancy loss or the death of a baby. Programs also address pregnancy after loss, parenting through loss, partners, and specific types of loss.
Calm-hearted has been in direct contact with this organization regarding its work and opportunities for me to be part of bereaved parent focus groups and other advocacy.
Calgary + Virtual
Pregnancy, Infant & Child Loss Support Centre (PILSC)
A Calgary-based charity offering professional, peer, and group support after infertility, pregnancy loss, infant loss, or child loss. Many resources and virtual groups are available beyond Calgary.
I am volunteering as a peer mentor with PILSC and have been in direct contact with the organization through that role. I'm sharing this for transparency, and any PILSC-related information included on Calm-hearted is based only on PILSC’s publicly available resources.
US
Return to Zero: H.O.P.E.
Virtual support groups, healing retreats, a pregnancy and infant loss provider directory, and resources for families and professionals. Structured groups and retreats generally require a registration fee.
The resource has been reviewed, although I have not personally used the services or participated in the programs offered.
UK
Sands
A UK charity offering a free helpline, email and online support, local groups, remembrance resources, and information for anyone affected by pregnancy or baby loss. Specific support is also available for men, TFMR, and pregnancy after loss.
Calm-hearted has been in direct contact with Sands to discuss pregnancy and infant loss support in the UK and Canada and to learn more about its publicly available resources.
US and Canada + Virtual
Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support
Online groups, moderated chats, remembrance opportunities, personal stories, and grief resources after miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of a baby in early infancy. Free online support is available to families in the United States and Canada.
This resource has not been personally used or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
US + Virtual
Sisters in Loss
A Black-women-centred community using storytelling, education, podcasts, grief support, and doula services to address pregnancy and infant loss and infertility. Its programs create culturally specific spaces for support and connection.
This resource has not been personally used or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
US
Star Legacy Foundation
Free virtual support groups, peer companions, education, and resources after pregnancy loss, stillbirth, neonatal death, or infant loss. The organization also focuses on stillbirth research, prevention, and improving care.
This resource has not been personally used or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Canada
The Compassionate Friends of Canada
A national peer-support network for parents, grandparents, and siblings after the death of a child of any age and from any cause. Local chapters and some virtual meetings offer ongoing connection with other bereaved families.
The resource has been reviewed, although I have not personally used the services or participated in the programs offered.
UK
Tommy's
A pregnancy and baby charity offering medically reviewed information and support after miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death, or TFMR. Tommy’s also funds research into the causes and prevention of pregnancy complications and baby loss and provides free access to midwives trained in bereavement support.
The resource has been reviewed, although I have not personally used the services or participated in the programs offered.
Books
Ask Me His Name by Elle Wright
A mother’s account of pregnancy, her son’s brief life, and leaving the hospital without him. The book gives language to continuing motherhood while making room for relationships, humour, and life beyond the most acute period of grief.
This resource has not been personally read by me or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Bearing the Unbearable by Joanne Cacciatore
Short, compassionate chapters for people living through traumatic grief. Written by a grief researcher and bereaved mother, it offers companionship for pain that cannot be fixed or made tidy rather than a set of stages to complete.
This resource has not been personally read by me or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart by Deborah L. Davis
A comprehensive guide for parents after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death. It addresses complex emotions, relationships, family responses, anniversaries, and the different ways parents may experience the same loss.
This resource has not been personally read by me or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine
A direct and validating rejection of the idea that grief is a problem to solve. The book helps grieving people and those supporting them understand profound loss without platitudes, imposed timelines, or pressure to move on.
I have personally read this book and included it based on my own review of its content. I would recommend saving this book for beyond the earliest days, once you have had some time to understand how grief looks and feels for you, as its descriptions may otherwise feel overwhelming.
Notes for the Everlost by Kate Inglis
Part memoir and part field guide, written after the death of the author’s premature son. Its unsparing, lyrical, and sometimes darkly funny writing may resonate with readers looking for honest recognition rather than conventional grief advice.
This resource has not been personally read by me or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Still: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Motherhood by Emma Hansen
A Canadian memoir about the stillbirth of the author’s first child and the motherhood that continues afterward. The author writes candidly about birth, memory, grief, pregnancy after loss, and carrying love for a baby who died.
This resource has not been personally read by me or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
The Baby Loss Guide by Zoë Clark-Coates
Plain-language support for the first days and the longer path after pregnancy or infant loss. Practical guidance and a structured day-by-day section may be useful when concentration is limited and open-ended advice feels difficult to use.
This resource has not been personally read by me or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
The Grief Handbook by Bridget McNulty
An interactive guide combining personal experience after the loss of the author's mom, psychological insight, short reflections, and practical exercises. Readers can move through it at their own pace, using its prompts, checklists, and creative pages to explore grief without pressure to follow a particular timeline or “get over” their loss.
I have personally read this book and included it based on my own review of its content. This is a gentle book that may feel approachable at any stage, though a light content warning that it includes references to living children, the suggestion to “treat yourself like a newborn,” and the author’s experience of her hardest year while caring for a newborn and toddler.
The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O’Connor
An accessible exploration of what grief does to the brain and why it can take time to understand that someone is no longer physically present. A useful choice for readers who find comfort in the science of love, attachment, and loss.
This resource has not been personally read by me or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
What's Your Grief? Lists to Help you Through Any Loss by Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams
A practical, down-to-earth guide that uses bite-sized lists to explain common grief experiences, emotions, and coping strategies. Its flexible format makes it easy to read in small sections and reflect on your own experience without presenting one prescribed way to grieve.
This resource has not been personally read by me or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful. I have skimmed their website, which shares the same name, and there is a lot of general grief content there if you want to explore further.
Podcasts
Episode | Finding Community: The Legacy of Wilder Jay — Stillbirth Happens, Let’s Talk
Content note: Full-term stillbirth. Kimberly Lockhart shares her son’s stillbirth story and how her search for connection contributed to the Vancouver Butterfly Run and Butterfly Support Network. A local conversation about grief, community, and remembrance.
This podcast episode features the founder and executive director of Butterfly Support Network, listed in our Organizations section. This resource has not been personally listened to or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Episode | How One Mom Turned Heartbreak Into Healing for Others — All Figured Out
Content note: Multiple losses, healthcare experiences. Angel Leung shares how pregnancy loss and her nursing experience led her to create Baby Bean Consulting. The conversation explores gaps in care and the work of turning lived experience into practical support.
This podcast episode features the founder of Baby Bean Consulting, listed in our Organizations section. I have personally listened to this podcast episode and, sharing for transparency, the host of the show is a mentor of mine.
Episode | Memorializing: Bringing Ryann Home — Stillbirth Happens, Let’s Talk
Content note: Stillbirth, funeral arrangements, transporting a baby after death. A conversation about a family’s decisions after stillbirth and the process of bringing their daughter home from British Columbia to Manitoba. A funeral director also explains transportation, ceremony, and memorialization options.
This resource has not been personally listened to or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Episode | Mothering Babies in Spirit and Pregnancy after Loss with Kristin Oblak — The Cosmic Womb
Content note: This podcast explores spiritual and mediumship-based ideas that may feel familiar to some listeners and less so to others. Kristin Oblak discusses continuing to mother and stay connected with babies who are no longer physically present, as well as the anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and complicated emotions that can accompany pregnancy after loss.
This resource is also shared on the Family & Friends page because it offers helpful guidance for supporting someone after pregnancy or infant loss. This episode shares perspective from a birth, postpartum, and bereavement doula who has lived experience as a bereaved mom. It covers topics such as identity after loss, supporting grieving mothers, and pregnancy after loss.
Episode | Recurrent Pregnancy Loss: Megan Hanson’s Story and the Path to Answers — Beyond the Silent Stars
Content note: Recurrent miscarriage, medical care, trying again. Megan Hanson discusses six pregnancy losses, gaps in medical understanding, emerging research, and the advocacy work that led her to co-found the Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Association.
This resource has not been personally listened to or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Episode | Returning to Work After Pregnancy or Child Loss — The Glimmer Podcast
Practical guidance about returning to work after miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal loss, or TFMR. The episode also speaks directly to employers and colleagues about creating a more grief-literate workplace.
This resource has not been personally listened to or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Episode | TFMR: The First Six Months — Time to Talk TFMR
Reflection on the first six months after ending a wanted first pregnancy following a serious prenatal diagnosis. The conversation includes friendships, baby showers, support groups, and the hopes and fears connected with trying again.
This resource has not been personally listened to or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Episode | The Greatest Loss — All There Is with Anderson Cooper
Content note: vanishing twin syndrome, Turner syndrome, TFMR, stillbirth at 23 weeks, funeral planning, and living children. A tender conversation about silence, acknowledgement, and a family’s enduring love for their baby.
This resource is also shared on the Early Days page because it may offer helpful support during the first days and weeks after loss. It includes discussion of termination for medical reasons (TFMR), funeral planning, saying goodbye to her baby in the hospital, and parenting living children after loss. The episode image is the mother in a hospital bed and this also may feel difficult to see.
Episode | When Fathers Grieve: Understanding Perinatal Loss Through a Father’s Eyes — Beyond the Silent Stars
Content note: Perinatal loss. Dr. Mark Terjessen combines personal insight and professional expertise to explore fathers’ often-overlooked grief, different coping styles, finding support, and honouring a baby’s memory.
This resource has not been personally listened to or reviewed in detail but is included because it may be relevant or helpful.
Show | All There Is with Anderson Cooper
A broader grief podcast that may be helpful when someone wants honest conversation about grief, loss, and remembrance with some relief from staying in the pregnancy and infant loss space.
I have not listened to every episode, but I have listened to each episode focused on the death of a child at different ages, as well as several episodes about other grief. I appreciate the gentleness, reflection, love, and hopeful perspective the show brings through the host and guest conversations.
Show | Navigating Baby Loss
A podcast hosted by a stillbirth mother and shared from a grief-coaching perspective. The conversations combine personal stories, guest conversations, and practical guidance for mothers living after loss.
This resource has been reviewed, although I have not listened to every episode. Even though the podcast is primarily focused on stillbirth, I appreciate the straightforward, relatable topics and how the episodes share practical information exploring guilt, triggers, relationships, identity, pregnancy after loss, and grief.
Remembrance
A Living Tribute
A Living Tribute plants trees in Canadian forests in honour or memory of someone. The sender can choose a planting region and include a personalized commemorative card for the recipient.
Friends gifted us a grove planted in BC in our son’s memory, and we have the commemorative card framed in our home. This is a particularly meaningful gift for us, so I'm sharing it as a special way to create a living memorial while also supporting reforestation or afforestation in Canada.
Butterfly Support Network: Remembrance Resources
Butterfly Support Network is a BC nonprofit with a remembrance page that gathers Canadian keepsakes and memorial resources, including jewellery, journals, candles, personalized gifts, and grief-support boxes.
I have not personally used the remembrance items listed on this page, but I am sharing it as another way to discover Butterfly Support Network and the wider support and community it offers to families in BC.
IRIS: Poems and Stories
Infants Remembered In Silence, or IRIS, has an extensive online collection of poems and stories related to pregnancy and infant loss. The collection includes writing about grief, parenthood, remembrance, birthdays, holidays, faith, and continuing love.
The poem “What Makes a Mother” particularly touched my heart and gave words to the comfort I was looking for in the midst of unimaginable heartbreak. It has a religious perspective that may not resonate with everyone, but I wanted to share it for those who may find comfort in it too.
LaMem
LaMem is a Canadian company that transforms photographs and messages into personalized artwork carved onto real leaves, including maple, aspen, and ginkgo leaves. Pieces can be displayed in frames as delicate and distinctive keepsakes.
I explored creating a memorial piece of my son with LaMem. Although the particular project was ultimately not the right fit for what I hoped to create, they were incredibly patient, communicative, and supportive while working with something that meant so much to me. I chose to share their products here as a fan of their beautiful art and do not receive anything if you make a purchase.
PublishedClay
PublishedClay creates detailed miniature clay recreations of bouquets as magnets, ornaments, jewellery, and other keepsakes. Custom pieces can preserve the appearance and colours of meaningful flowers when the original bouquet cannot be kept.
Meg created a highly customized magnet recreating flowers from my son’s funeral. She was exceptionally detail oriented, welcomed and incorporated my feedback, sent progress photos, and kept me involved throughout the process of creating something so personal. Meg has kindly offered Calm-hearted readers a discount on purchases made with the code CALMHEARTED through the end of 2026. I do not receive a commission or anything else if you make a purchase.
The Glimmer Collective
The Glimmer Collective offers healing rituals to support you and your loved ones as you navigate through grief. The collection of products includes candles, a guided journal, and grief affirmation card set.
I first heard about The Glimmer Collective through episode 55 of the "All Figured Out" podcast, hosted by a mentor of mine. I wanted to include it here as a way to support local stories and businesses that are approaching grief and remembrance thoughtfully. I have no affiliation with The Glimmer Collective and do not receive anything if you choose to make a purchase.